H E A R T A U T U M N

How many 'New Years Resolutions' style posts have you read already? I'm not even gonna apologize for adding to the masses, because a fresh year (starting on a Monday, no less!) is the perfect time to implement all of those changes you keep promising yourself. Plus, I love reading everyone elses and getting inspired! 
I wrote a post back in September when I was feeling super motivated about how that time of year (more so than actual New Year) gets me ready for a fresh start. It's probably due to the whole 'start of the new school year' which was engrained for so many years as a fresh start. But that doesn't mean I don't still get motivated by the new year.

I don't have a bullet point list of things that I want to accomplish in 2018, set number goals to achieve or anything like that, but just a few things that I've been noticing lately that I want to make more of an effort with.

Doing Things For Myself.
The biggest change I want to make for 2018 is to be a stronger person, learn to say no, learn to let go and, basically, stop being taken for a mug! There have been too many 'friends' only ever getting in touch when they want something, not being there for me and generally just using me. To the point where I was in tears to my mum on one ocassion telling her how much I just hate people. So 2018 is gonna be the year to get rid of that kind of negativity from my life. I want the kind of friends who uplift me, not tear me down, and although I'm super introverted and not the most sociable person, I just need to push myself a little and find more like-minded people.

Saying Yes More.
This kind of follows on from the first point, but as if I wasn't shy and anxiety riddled enough, something happened early on this year which just pushed me way back. To the point where I was cancelling plans if not avoiding making them in the first place, and honestly? I've barely done anything this year other than work or blog. I've not been on holiday (unless you count a family trip to Dublin?) and I've just not spent much time with friends. So for 2018 I want to get back to being me. Doing things I enjoy with other people, not just on my own, and pushing myself out of my comfort zone somewhat.

Working On My Content.
Not so much a change, but I want to continue working on improving my content more, working with photographers for my outfit shoots and writing more ~think pieces~. My photos, writing and blog in general have improved a lot since I started, and I am so happy with it all, but I still want to continue pushing myself and my abilities! Along with this comes improving my social media. I'm not talking aiming for higher numbers, I'm talking how I use them. I need to be more active and sociable on twitter, and I need to put more effort into my instagram. It got to a point where I was so focused with posting everyday on there that I wasn't posting my best photos. Less high quality photos are better than lots of poor quality ones tbh.

Being more ethical.
I like to think I'm not doing terrible at this anyway, but I know there's little changes I can still make, cutting down on plastic use being a big one! I didn't even watch Blue Planet (sorry!) but the chat around it still made me think, along with the other chat you see on social media about climate change and veganism and all sorts. I eat a (mainly) plant-based diet, but health problems restrict me with food a lot anyway! I do the main things like using a canvas shopping bag and recycling what I can, but I do I want to get a compost bin too for any food waste, and generally just be more aware.

If it's not about wearing everything red, or gawdy festive jumpers everyday, then Christmas tends to mean wearing head-to-toe sparkles for ~the party season~. But sometimes, you've got a banging LBD you want to wear, a colourful skirt or a check-print trouser suit, and that sparkly playsuit just doesn't fit right. If you're not comfortable in it, don't wear it! Sparkles just aren't for me. I've never worn a glittery dress (why are they all so itchy?!) and a sequin covered top just seems impracticle tbh. So why not add sparkle to your outfit through your accessories instead? I don't mean adding glittery belts or covering your shoes in sequins, just some nice little metallic pops. And what kind of blogger would I be if I didn't go for rose gold, hm?!



I picked up this suit from Missguided and for the price, it fits really rather well. Although the check print means it's not the most subtle, it's also not very loud, so with a nude bodysuit underneath I thought it would make the perfect outfit to sparkle up.


Shoes
If there's anything you should know about me, it's that I LOVE a statement shoe. In particular statement boots! Whether it's metallics or animal print, platforms or vibrant colours, I'm all about them. So this rose gold pair from Office seemed like the perfect addition. Failing that, I also think a red pair of boots would add the ultimate pop of colour!



Bag
My brother actually got me this bag at the start of the year when I was in my cliche blogger 'I love everything rose gold' phase and it's actually not been used all that much! It's the perfect 'going out' size but I just never go out, y'know! I love that the chain and the whole bag are all one colour; and are statement bags, teamed with statement shoes, not the easiest way to jazz up any outfit?!

Jewellery
I'm really bad when it comes to jewellery. I have multiple ear piercings but never change them and I wear the same selection of rings almost every single day. But you just need to think a bit more about what you're wearing and the perfect jewellery accompaniments can be found! I initially wanted to add a necklace, thinking it would tie in with the bare chest look well, but decided statement earrings would be a better fit. I always go for lots of rings, and this time I simply switched my normal choices for these rose gold ones that I picked up from Primark a while ago! I also switched up my watch from my usual black and gold Olivia Burton number to this rose gold beauty from Ice Watch*. It's the perfect 'sparkle but not too much' style and is super lightweight and comfy to wear!


Make-Up
Hey look, it's something else that I'm really bad at! I mentioned only recently how terrible I am with makeup but one thing I'm all about is a statement lip and nail combo. At this time of year it does tend to be red, because you just can't beat it can you? But once I pick a theme, I really stick to it, so this rose gold lip cream from the Bourjois metallics range*  paired with a Barry M metallic nail polish couldn't be any better could it? The lip cream is so nice and creamy (not drying on the lips!) and the nail polish is only slight sparkle (not the hard to get off, all out glitter!) so it's a win-win!



Wearing:


Blazer & Trousers, Missguided


Bodysuit, Missguided


Bag, SkinnyDip


Boots, Office


Earrings, Next (not online)


Rings, Primark


Watch, Ice Watch*


Photos by Matt McCormick

Y'know when inspiration strikes in the shower and you write up paragraphs in your head, but as soon as you get out, it's gone? Yeah that happened with this post! I had the idea and loads of points that I wanted to make, worded it all so that it was actually readable and now don't have a clue what any of it was! But I just see so much focus, everywhere, on aiming to be a girl boss, run your own successful business, have multiple side hustles and be on the grind 12 hours a day, everyday. And I hate it. Like yes, that is (obviously) a great goal to have, aim high and all that, but it's just not for everyone. AND THAT'S OK.



Wherever you look, whether it be the slogans on clothing, the latest must-have coffee table books, or just chat on social media, being a ~girl boss~ seems to be the goal for everyone at the moment. (And don't get me started on why we're still using this term - is a boss not a boss whether male, female or anything in between?) And I was all for it at first, yes GRLPOWR, we can and should achieve just as much if not more than our male counterparts, but then the more I've thought about it, more so in relation to myself, it just doesn't sit right with me. When I do something, I like to give it my all, I do everything I can to make any task the best it can possibly be, to the point of burning myself out. So if I was having to go out and find a paycheck each month, my mental and physical health would be TERRIBLE. The thought of blogging full-time, loosing a steady income and risking it all, gives me so much anxiety, which only triggers my IBS more and makes me want to hibernate for a week. I know blogging full-time isn't the only way to be bossing life, but it's just one example because, y'know, I'm a blogger! 



I love my blog, and yeah of course I get a little jealous at times seeing those who do it full-time jetting off everywhere and anywhere, shopping all week and choosing their own working hours, but for the stress that come's along with this, I just don't think it will ever be for me. I love blogging alongside my 9-5 and what's so bad about that? I don't have to worry where my next paycheck will come from and when; I can switch off at 5 o'clock and my holidays are actual holidays. There's no fear that having time off will result in a loss of money or having to take my laptop on every trip I make. If I want to create content for my blog whilst I'm away then that's through choice and it's stress-free. I'm not ~bossing life~ but that's ok. 

"Chase your dreams or you'll end up helping someone else chase theirs"
One of the most RIDICULOUS statements used to encourage everyone to build an empire. What's so wrong with helping others achieve their dreams? Absolutely nothing. If you build such a successful empire then you'll end up wanting somebody to help you and you shouldn't be looking down on them for that. Not everyones dream is to be their own boss; not everyones dream is even career focused! Some people just want to travel the world or have a family, and if a stable job working for someone else helps them to achieve that, who are we to judge? 

With social media so huge it's very easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to literally anyone else who is a similar age, and it's just not necessary, is it? I don't have my own business, I don't own my own house, but does that mean I don't work hard? No. Does it mean I'm not successful? No. Whether we have different end goals or just different paths to get their, no two people have the same journey. 



Wearing:


Top, Topshop


Jacket, Primark (similar)


Trousers, Nasty Gal


Hat, TK Maxx (similar)